--- title: "This Training Is NOT for You If… (Honest Fit Check)" url: https://www.shockwavejujitsu.co.uk/articles/this-training-is-not-for-you-if updated: 2025-08-23 --- # This Training Is NOT For You If... We're not for everyone — and that's completely intentional. Self-defence training requires **physical contact, consistent effort, and genuine commitment** to skill development. Some people thrive in this environment. Others discover it's not what they're looking for. We'd rather you know which category you fall into **before attending your first class, not after**. --- ## If You're Looking for a Fitness Class - **You want**: A workout routine, cardio training, or strength building as your primary goal - **What we offer**: Skill development that happens to improve fitness as a byproduct Self-defence training will make you fitter, stronger, and more coordinated. But that's not why we're here. **We're here to teach you how to handle dangerous situations.** If your main goal is fitness, you'll be better served by a gym, fitness class, or dedicated martial arts program focused on conditioning. --- ## If You Want to Talk About Self-Defence - **You want**: Lengthy discussions about crime statistics, safety tips, or theoretical knowledge as the main focus - **What we offer**: Physical practice of techniques under realistic pressure, with occasional safety discussions when relevant We don't spend most of our time analyzing crime data or having extended conversations about safety awareness. **When local incidents occur, instructors will use them as teachable moments** — but this is event-driven, not our primary focus. If you prefer seminars, workshops, or educational discussions as the main content of personal safety training, this isn't the right fit. --- ## If You're Seeking Social Connection First - **You want**: A friendly community, social club atmosphere, or casual group activity - **What we offer**: A respectful training environment where community forms around shared commitment Yes, you'll meet like-minded people. **Yes, friendships develop.** But this happens because we're all focused on the same serious goal — not because we're trying to socialize. If your primary motivation is meeting people or having a social outlet, you'll find better options elsewhere. --- ## If You're Uncomfortable with Physical Contact - **You want**: To learn self-defence without any physical interaction - **What we offer**: Controlled sparring and partner training that requires contact There's no way around this: **self-defence training involves physical contact**. We practice escapes from grabs, chokes, and holds. We do light sparring. We train on the ground. All of this is **controlled, respectful, and supervised** — but it's still physical. If the idea of any physical contact makes you uncomfortable, this training won't work for you. --- ## If You Need Immediate Results - **You want**: Quick fixes, "learn in 6 weeks" solutions, or instant confidence - **What we offer**: Skill development that requires consistent practice over time Real self-defence skills take time to develop. **Real confidence comes from proven competence**, not quick wins or motivational speeches. If you're looking for shortcuts or expect to feel dramatically different after a few sessions, you'll be disappointed. --- ## If You Can't Handle Structured Learning - **You want**: Constant action without instruction, or purely instinctive training - **What we offer**: Step-by-step skill building with demonstrations, practice, and correction **Learning self-defence requires patience.** You'll watch demonstrations. You'll practice techniques slowly before applying them. You'll roleplay scenarios. You'll receive corrections. If you're fidgety, need constant action, or can't handle the stop-start nature of learning, this isn't for you. --- ## If You're Looking for Spiritual or Philosophical Training - **You want**: Deep martial arts philosophy, meditation, or spiritual growth - **What we offer**: Practical skills with a focus on legal and ethical application **We teach you how to defend yourself within the law.** We discuss proportionate response and de-escalation. But we're not a philosophy school. If you're seeking enlightenment, ancient wisdom, or spiritual development through martial arts, look elsewhere. --- ## If You Can't Be a Good Training Partner - **You want**: Individual attention without responsibility to others - **What we offer**: Partner-based training where everyone depends on each other **Your training partners need you to be present, focused, and safe.** You can't be selfish, aggressive, or careless. If you can't control your ego, follow instructions, or care about others' safety and learning, you'll be asked to leave. --- ## If You're Not Ready for Reality - **You want**: Movie-style self-defence or techniques that always work perfectly - **What we offer**: Honest training about what works, what doesn't, and when **Real self-defence is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes unsuccessful.** We prepare you for reality, not fantasy. If you need guarantees, perfect techniques, or reassuring fiction about personal safety, this training will frustrate you. --- ## The Hard Truth **Self-defence training isn't for everyone** — and that's okay. We'd rather you know this upfront than discover it after attending a class. It's better for you, better for other students, and better for the training environment. --- ## Who This Training IS For If you've read this far and still think Shockwave Jujitsu might be right for you, here's who typically thrives in our program: - **People who want practical skills** more than quick fixes - **Adults who can handle physical contact** in a controlled environment - **Students who value consistency** over immediate results - **Individuals seeking competence** rather than just confidence - **People who can be patient** with the learning process - **Training partners who care** about others' safety and progress --- ## Your Choice If anything in this article made you think **"that's exactly what I don't want,"** then you've saved yourself time and disappointment. If you read through this and thought **"yes, that's what I'm looking for,"** then you might be exactly who we're designed to help. **Still interested?** Continue with the next essential article to see who you'd be training alongside. **Have doubts?** Trust them. There are many excellent fitness programs, social clubs, and discussion groups that might be better fits for what you're actually seeking. We're not for everyone — and we're completely fine with that. --- ## Next: See Who You'll be Training With Continue exploring if you'd fit with the actual Shockwave Jujitsu student community: - [Article 3. Who you'd be training with](/articles/who-actually-trains-at-shockwave-jujitsu) **Prefer to book now?** - [Book Your Free Intro Class](/classes) - [View pricing and membership options](/pricing) Still have questions? - [Contact us](/contact) before booking — we'd rather address them upfront. --- **This is Article 2 of the 4 Part Essential Reading series.** - [Article 1. What happens in your first class](/articles/what-to-expect-in-your-first-class) - [Article 2. Who this training is NOT for](/articles/this-training-is-not-for-you-if) - [Article 3. Who you'd be training with](/articles/who-actually-trains-at-shockwave-jujitsu) - [Article 4. What you'll actually get from training](/articles/the-reality-of-self-defence-training)